Which of the following are real choices?
- You can stop fighting or go home for three days. It's up to you.
- You can do your work now or sit in the office for the rest of the class. The choice is yours.
- You can either stop interrupting or be quiet for the remaining class time. You decide.
- You can do your work now or during recess. It's up to you.
A Brief History of Teacher Authority
Years ago, one of teachers' biggest fears was that they were losing control of their classrooms, and steps were taken to give control back to the teachers. Reward/punishment programs flourished, including escalating suspensions and public humiliation by writing names on the blackboard with checkmarks for offenders.
Many wonderful educators fought hard to change this state of affairs. Nowadays, most educators understand the need for student choice and that things work better when control is shared between students and teachers. The influence of this change in thinking can be seen in the popular topics of Edutopia posts about student empowerment and involvement, empathy, inclusion and student-centered classrooms.
But high-stakes testing has reinforced the need for teacher control. So how can we give students choices and still maintain control? The answer, in many but not all cases, is by disguising threats as choices. Threats give the teacher control by scaring the student with undesirable and hurtful punishments if he or she refuses to do what the teacher wants.
Positive Choices vs. Control
Students often respond positively to these hidden threats in the short term, but over time, negative effects gradually appear. Because threats of this type are psychological in nature, they produce psychological flight-or-fight, withdrawal, passive-aggressive behavior or defiance.
When used positively, choices can:
- Empower students to feel in control.
- Prevent difficult pushback and escalation.
- Build trust between teachers and students.
- Resolve issues more satisfactorily -- most of the time.
If I stuck a gun to a teacher's head and said, "Your money or your life," he or she might say, "I don't have any money. I'm not even sure if I have a life!" But in all seriousness, is "Your money or your life" a threat or choice? Most teachers know it is a threat, but when I ask why, they say, "Because the choices are both negative." This is a wrong answer. It's not about negativity -- it's about control. For example, if a doctor tells a patient who was in a serious car accident, "I can save your life by amputating your leg, or I can try to save your leg -- but you might die," both of these choices are negative. However, the control is with the patient, not the doctor.
There are two distinct ways to tell if you are offering a choice or a threat to your students:
- Are any of the alternatives punishments? If so, then it is a threat.
- Do you already know which choice you prefer the student to choose? If so, it is a threat.
Using these criteria, it becomes clear that the first three of the choices I offered at the beginning of this post are threats. Going home for three days, sitting in the office for the rest of the class, being quiet for the remaining class time -- all are punishments, and in every case, the teacher prefers the student to choose the other option. It doesn't matter if we add the words, "The choice is yours." They are still classic threats and are best avoided.
The fourth example is tricky. It could mean either of these:
- If you don't do your work, you'll miss recess.
- You can do your work now, but some students like doing it during recess when the room is quiet. Do you have a preference?
I included this example to show that intention is more important than words. If you truly have no preference in the answer, then you're offering a real choice. But if the options are weighted toward a specific outcome, then maintaining control is probably your true intention.
Examples for Guidance
Below are some real choices. Notice that the teacher has no preference, and no option is designed to hurt. Each begins with a limit, clearly telling the student what line has been crossed. And since this is a limited set of examples, further consequences are not included, but may be necessary.
Are you in the habit of giving your students real choices? How would you handle situations described in this blog -- or situations that I haven't described?