Things You Should Know Your First Year as a High School Counselor

As many new counselors and educators prepare to start their career, they need a mentor and an entry plan to get ready for a productive year. Counselors help students and families by serving as a resource. 

When I interned many years ago, my supervisor Charlie Riccio was an amazing counselor. He cared deeply for all students, kept snacks in his office for students, was visible, and spent quality time with each student who walked in his door. Many years later, I never forgot the strong foundation I received from that school.

Similarly to building a house, as counselors build the foundation for their career, it’s essential to use quality tools and start construction with a multiphase plan. 

Phase 1: Prep and Foundation

Building strong relationships with your students is key. When I recently visited a history class, I noticed that the veteran teacher spent the first 10 minutes checking in with students—asking about their day and families. The students were engaged and appreciated his interest in them. Another teacher has students play hacky sack in the hallway for 10 minutes before class starts. These activities build community and connections with students.

Some foundation tools include looking students in their eyes, being present, and being visible when you can in the hallways and community (some students may want to talk when they see you). When something seems different or concerning about a student, follow up. Trust your gut feeling. I recently asked a student about why they had been absent so often. I didn’t judge—I showed empathy and genuine concern. Find meaningful ways to connect with students. Ask students about their interests and their story. Find what works for you. I have blow pops and a basket of fidgets in my office. They’re very popular with students. 

Phase 2: Framing

Prioritize networking. Over the years, I’ve become the go-to counselor for internship opportunities, scholarships, summer programs (free), and jobs. I’ve built relationships with supervisors at our school, college admissions representatives, and employers, and I’ve researched free opportunities for first-generation low-income and other students. 

These are two of my favorite resources:

• The Matchlighters Scholars Program
• College Greenlight: Fly-In and Diversity Programs

Find out who has your back and show appreciation for them. You’ll quickly learn who your true supporters are. Who checks on you to answer questions and shows genuine interest? My first year, a counselor sat down with me, brought in a copy of the master schedule (courses), and made sure I knew what I was doing. One counselor I know asks multiple people the same question to see what makes the most sense. Ask for a timeline for the year so you can plan.

Give yourself some grace—no one is perfect. Don’t fear failure; it’s a lesson. I honestly hate making mistakes. However, I’m human, and we all make mistakes. Think about what happened, reflect, talk about it, and let it go. We can learn valuable lessons from our mistakes.

Answer calls and emails in 24–48 hours if possible. Parents and guardians want communication from the school. Don’t react to angry emails and calls. In the beginning of my career, I thought the emotional communications were directed at me. Over time, I learned to listen to the message and not personalize the tone or frustration. These calls and meetings got easier over time with experience. Talk to others who feel comfortable with difficult conversations and can offer suggestions. Sometimes I ask, “Would you like me to listen, offer suggestions, or share my thoughts?” Find out the reason for the call and stay calm. Also, wrap up conversations with people who are not respecting you. 

Phase 3: Build Out

Take lunch. Seriously, you need a break. For years, I did not take a lunch break, stayed late, and even worked on the weekends and nights. Sure, there may be times when you need to work outside of the workday. However, if you’re always working, consider ways to restructure your workday. Prioritize your peace and maintain good boundaries. You are doing the best you can.

Seeking help is a sign of strength. Reach out to your supervisor, talk to other counselors, and build a community of support. I’ve worked with many effective supervisors over the years, some of whom were my mentors and role models. Whenever I collaborated with someone I admired, I asked if I could meet with them to brainstorm or ask questions. 

Phase 4: Final Stages

Professional development, training, and education never end. I recently attended a restorative practice training for two days. The trainer was amazing, and the content was very powerful and practical. We left the training with new connections, new tools, and new information that could be used both professionally and personally. Whether it is listening to a podcast, watching a training video, taking a class, or attending a workshop, professional development and continuous learning are essential for all educators.

Thank-you notes go a long way. I had an intriguing conversation with a student recently. We talked about the college search and internships (I think real-world experience is key). Of the many suggestions I shared during this meeting, one included sending thank-you notes (old-fashioned handwritten notes) to important people he met along the way. A week later, he sent me a card.

Phase 5: Inspection

Understand your benefits. Meet with someone from your union or benefits team who can answer questions. I told a colleague about graduate assistantships at a local college. He applied and received an assistantship that would save him money. Apply for grants offered through professional organizations (and your school) to attend conferences. They are great networking opportunities, and the sessions are informative. Some graduate programs will accept ASCA (American School Counselor Association) courses in lieu of graduate courses (big savings). You can also check the federal Public Service Loan Forgiveness Program to see if you qualify. 

After building a strong foundation and structure for your first year, make positive connections with members of your community. You’re there for a reason and can make a difference. Good luck—I’m rooting for you.