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Using Student-Led Parent-Teacher Conferences to Build Relationships

| Bob Lenz

Quite a few readers responded to my blog entry "In the Loop: The Payoff for Parent-Teacher Conferences." As spring approaches, the next round of conferences is just around the corner. I want to address some of your general questions and comments, and, hopefully, this will help with upcoming planning. For those who don't conference, consider building conferences into your calendar next year.

What is the difference between a conference and a portfolio folder? The only difference is that the work is shared at school, not at home. Granted, with a conference at school, parents are forced to look at their child's work; but because they care about their child's successes, they should be doing this at home anyway.

Yes, if a conference is just looking at a folder of work, it is a missed opportunity. A powerful student-led parent-teacher conference focuses on student learning goals we can set by examining the student's work. This is an active event in which the learner and those responsible for supporting her education identify her strengths and areas of growth and make plans to address these areas. Unfortunately, parents often do not know how to support their children in school, particularly if they were unsuccessful in their own schooling. The conference is one tool to help parents support their child's success.

We start off the school year with home visits. I feel these home visits have opened the door to more parental participation. Sitting down with a child and his parents in their home is a powerful tool that builds relationships and understanding. We are moving toward requiring this of all of our advisers.

Readers also commented on how to encourage more parents to attend these types of conferences. Because many parents, even at the elementary school level, often take a passive role in their child's schooling, what can a teacher do to make conferences more interesting so parents will want to attend?

One solution is to pair conferences up with something else going on that evening that may interest parents -- perhaps a concert or dance. Parents may be in the neighborhood to drop their child off, and this may make it more convenient for them.

At Envision Schools, we put aside an entire week of minimum days, which gives plenty of time and sets the priority for the school community. The incentive we use is that we hand out report cards, rather than mail them. If you don't attend a conference, you will not receive a report card. Each adviser follows up with each parent until they attend. Currently, 95 percent of our parents participate.

As students get older, especially as they begin high school, they yearn for a sense of independence and maturity. In this struggle, I find there is often a disconnect between students and their parents in regard to school performance. Because kids and parents don't often talk about school, we think parent-teacher conferences are imperative. By requiring this interaction, we are telling parents it is OK to get involved with their teenager's high school education. For students, we give them some cover; they really do want their parents involved.

Several readers addressed the issue of time management when teaching a large number of students. Those teaching 100 kids or more will have to get creative. Our teachers have responsibility for holding only 18-20 conferences. We believe that in order to achieve better results, we need to redesign secondary schools in order to foster these types of interactions.

I hope some of these ideas will support you in planning powerful conferences for your students this spring. Please post comments about your successes and challenges with student-led parent-teacher conferences.

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kathryn symmes

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I have two nights 5pm - 8pm of parent teacher conferences this week. Last night I meet with 29 parents, 26 of the whose students have A's in my class. Two students whose parents attended have C's, and one has an F. This happens every year. The parents of A students come to hear how wonderful their child is and what good parents they are. Last night I had my student assignment sheet with grades for individual assignments, but some computer glitch left out the overall quarter grade. As I explained this to my first parent, she pulled out the grade sheet she had already printed from the computer Parent Internet Viewer program where students and parents can view grades and teacher comments. How many high schools and why would high schools hold parent teacher conferences in the 21st century when we have email, and online grade reports? I have taught since 1978, and I am a parent. These conferences are exhausting for teachers and it seems parents are there to get a "good parent" massage.

Sometimes these meetings are

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Sometimes these meetings are organized in small groups over several weeks with key training teams travel to different sites to deploy initiatives training and live Web Conferencer presentations. With GoToMeeting, you can share desktops and even share the mouse and keyboard control. At the same time, managers and micro-traditionalists will no doubt take a skeptical eye of a web conferencing solution implemented on a large scale as a direct replacement for the person training.

It sounds good on paper

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Hi Bob,
My name is Tammy Smith and my daughter attended Impact Academy in Hayward while living with my brother and his wife. Everything you are saying sounds good on paper however your school failed my daughter and she has not credit in all of her classed to prove it. Her advisor Julia Gonzalez can not even tell me when the last time She, Michaela, and her teachers along with my brother sat down for a conference to develop a plan for her. They were so charmed by my daughters good looks and great personality that they refused to hold her accountable for her actions. One of her teachers (Denise) was noted as saying, "Last week, I've attempted to move Michaela's assigned seat in my class to the front so she wouldn't be as distracted in class. I don't feel it has helped too much. I constantly have to ask her to redirect her focus to the front of the classroom when I am teaching or talking to the whole class. It is also my fault for not being consistent with the behavior management plan with her." It is my belief that the lack of consistent instruction and discipline has contributed to Michaela's failing. I would like to know your thoughts as I can not seem to connect with the Impact staff to discuss it. Jen Wickens has my number. Thank you.
Tammy Smith

Cheryl Stock (not verified)

Student lead conferences are

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Student lead conferences are a great tool for student accountability as well as communication between student-teacher and parent. The student is fully aware of the standards he/she has met/not met and communicates that with his/her parents. It allows the student to take ownership and responsibility for their work or possibly in some cases, the lack of work. In a student lead conference, the student is faced with the reality of presenting his/her work and does not have the ability to make excuses or blame the teacher. As a parent, I like to hear my child talk to me about their work in front of the teacher.

Carol Bauer (not verified)

students taking charge

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I like the idea of a student led conference. It is their future that we are talking about and with my 6th graders I believe that they are starting to look ahead.

Em (not verified)

student-let

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My school also partipates in this type of conference. I agree with the person who says it's difficult to respond to a parent about their child when there are other parents in the room. When this happens, I usually ask them to sign up for a parent conference where we can talk more privately.

Also a huge plus to student-led conference is that 4 or 5 conferences can be going on at the same time. You can get through all of them in a couple of days time.

Ashley (not verified)

Student-Led Conferences

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I like the idea of student-led parent teacher conferences. I teach high school (9th and 10th grade)and have found that it is very hard to bring parents in for a conference. I teach three class of inclusion and when we have IEP meeting we allow the students to be involved in the meetings. I have noticed that when the student and parent are both in attendance,and the student is given a chance to talk about his performance, the parent is impressed for the most part. The performance is not always positive but sometimes this is the first time the parent has heard of any type of performance. If I could do this with all my students that would be great, but I teach about 80 to 90 students. Some students need this interaction with parents and teachers more than others. Does anyone have any ideas how this process could be broken down to serve many students during one semester. Thank you.

Emily (not verified)

I love the idea of student

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I love the idea of student led conferences. This year I have really made sure that the studetns understand what the standard is asking of them; we call it unwrapping the standard. This would lead right into studetn led conferences because the studetns will really be able to chart their own progress. I know athat when I chart my own progress, I am really able to see what my areas of weakness are. This would be a great opportunity for the studetns.

Emily (not verified)

I love the idea of student

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I love the idea of student led conferences. They should own their education. My district is really trying to find a way to make the standards user friendly. They want the kids to understand what it is they are supposed to learn; the standard should not just be some random number. This would lead right into student led conferences. If the studetns understand what it is they are supposed to know, then this would really help them chart their own progress. I know that when I chart my own progress, then I can really see where my weak areas are. This would be great for the studetns.

Janice J. Heid (not verified)

student led goal setting conferences

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We are starting to do student led goal setting conferences in early October next fall. Do you have any ideas to help us get started? This has been a district decision so it has kind of been forced on us but most teachers are interested and willing. Do you know of any forms that could be used with this kind of goal setting format? Thanks so much,.

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Bob Lenz Founder and Chief of Innovation, Envision Education, Oakland CA

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