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WHAT WORKS IN EDUCATION The George Lucas Educational Foundation

It's been a long time since I was in elementary school. But I can remember it like it was yesterday.

I wasn't the cutest, skinniest or best-dressed girl. I wasn't even a popular girl, but I had an advantage; I could sing like "nobody's business," and my teachers loved that about me. As a result, I think I was spared the bullying that could've come from classmates due to my lack of the aforementioned qualities.

Times were tough in the late '60s. Maybe not as bad as what some call the "mean-girl phenom," experienced now by many, but it was there. So I think the fact that my classmates knew how much my teachers liked me may have spared me from their belittling.

Not true for all girls in my class.

I'll never forget one who was not spared the pain, the hurt and the bullying. She was easy prey: short, overweight and not very attractive. Most days she pretended to be tough and take the bullying in stride, even though I saw the tears that were privately shed.

I did my best to defend her when I could. But my actions were rare. Most of the girls in our class -- and boys, too -- were relentless in their pursuit of pain, the kind of pain that was inflicted mostly through name-calling, taunting and ridicule. This was especially true at recess time, when teachers were not easily accessible, or when they deemed it to be "child's play." We were only 10 or 11 years old at the time, but the hurtful actions projected by some classmates against this girl were alarming. No child should have to experience this kind of bullying, and yet, sadly, it happens every day, even at our best schools.

The Kind Campaign

Recently, I ran across a post about the Kind Campaign and their film, Finding Kind, and I knew that I had to share it. It struck a chord in my memory of the hurt my classmate endured and came back to haunt me.

Take a minute to watch an excerpt of this moving film:

In Finding Kind, filmmakers Lauren Parsekian and Molly Thompson, who met while in school at Pepperdine University, set out in a cross-country journey of discovery and education. Interviewing women and girls along the way about their lives and experiences, Parsekian and Thompson find, among all of the unique personal stories, some universal truths about growing up as girls.

Finding Kind is a document of that journey, and of the filmmakers' quest to take these experiences and find a common ground of kindness and mutual respect.

In addition to all of the individual girls and women who share their personal experiences about girl-on-girl bullying, Parsekian and Thompson include interviews with respected experts and authors in the fields of psychology, education and the interrelationships of women and girls.

It's clear that the Kind Campaign is taking their message to the streets and sharing it across the world, and I believe that educators should do the same.

Eight Steps Toward a Kinder World

As a new teacher preparing to enter the classroom, or as an experienced one, you're going to encounter potentially volatile situations between students on any given day. That said, you should be prepared to work through it with your students, prepared to support the teaching of kindness which, for many students, will be just as important as any other content area you teach them.

Let's look at a few ways we can support teaching kindness:

  1. Take part in the Random Acts of Kindness Week, February 11-17, 2013.
  2. Immerse yourself daily in modeling the teaching of kindness in your classroom and school site.
  3. Find resources for your students that can promote the work of kindness in their lives at school.
  4. Get students involved in creating lessons on the subject and incorporate journal writing, video production and podcasting in delivering the "kindness" lesson.
  5. Check out what indie film makers Lauren Parsekian and Molly Thompson are doing to take the mission of kindness to schools across the U.S.
  6. Schedule a screening of Finding Kind in your own school or neighborhood.
  7. Watch and share this video on The Kindness School that's inspiring students and their communities.
  8. Do everything you can to be a warrior of kindness with your students!

What are you doing to teach kindness? What strategies do you have in place to de-escalate the issues when they hit? How will you protect the students in your care from gossip or bullying? What do you still need help with? Leave us a comment, and let us know!

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Jennifer's picture
Jennifer
Elementary Music Teacher, MN

I really enjoyed reading your information. I work in a district that has been in the spotlight recently for bullying. We are doing many things as a district to work with students and try to be proactive when it comes to bullying. I know that we talk to the students about being kind and nice, but sometimes I wonder how much it sinks in. Just today I was working with students and one such little girl that is normally bubbly and full of life was quiet and had a blank look on her face for the full half hour that I was with her. I was able to talk to her and she said that she was still so sad from something that happened yesterday. Someone said that she was ugly and she had carried that with her since the day before. It took a little bit for me to get what was bothering her out, but once I did she had tears streaming down her face. I consoled her, asked her if she wanted me to talk to the other student or if she wanted to talk to our school social worker. She really wanted to go to her next class (media) so she asked me to let the social worker know that she would like to talk to him. I went right to her classroom teacher and the social worker. My heart just broke for her. There have been goissiping problems and friendship problems in this class for awhile - mainly ampng the girls. They are only in 3rd grade. Kids can be so mean to each other. I really enjoyed reading about the "Random Acts of Kindness Week" I want to talk to my principal about taking part in this. What a great thing - if we can do something just for the sake of doing something nice for each other, that my just help with some of the mean-spirited things that happen at our school. Thank-you for your insight and your ideas!

Ruby Tippett's picture

Kids can be mean and every school should take part in showing the students how to be kind towards one another and if they see a someone being bullied then they should ask the bully, how would it feel to you if you were being bullied and were upset later on because you were being picked on. If I were a teacher, I would have my students write down their definition of kindness and to follow that example.

Misty's picture
Misty
Seventh grade Humanities

Great article. Really helped me reflect on my own responsibility in teaching kindness in the classroom!

Inspired by your article, I wrote a blog post called RAK in the ROK. Feel free to check it out!

http://www.coetail.com/misstee/

Thanks.

Paula Gunsallus's picture

This was a great article to read. My school district takes this issue very seriously. We are required to keep bullying logs in our classroom and at recess. The staff meets on a regular basis to review the logs and address any potential problems. In my classroom, I started Random Acts of Kindness awareness back in December with a grinch activity. We decided to continue this activity as a Valentine's Day theme activity. I told my class that this is random acts of kindness week and they became very excited!

Cindy Kuegeman's picture

Thank you for your article! I am so appreciative of the ideas to use in my classroom. I teach fourth grade and the boys in my class can be very unkind to one another. Their words and tones of voice are jarring. I hope that I will be able to make an impact by using some of the ideas that you have in your article. The positive results are heart warming.

Lisa Dabbs's picture
Lisa Dabbs
Edu Consultant. Blogger & Social Media Marketing at Edutopia
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Thanks so much for sharing your beautiful video! I tweeted it our just now to share with the world! Give my best to all your kind souls at MJGDS. :)

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