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Creating a Family Media Agreement: How to Have the Conversation

One of the best and most important approaches to take in handling media use among children is for families to sit down together and create a family media agreement.

The virtue of this approach is that it enlists all stakeholders in a conversation and empowers and invites kids and parents to think about what they do with media, when they are on media, how they engage with media and how often they use media at home.

And, perhaps most importantly, the conversation creates space for dialogue about family values around media.

Here are a few quick tips and questions to ask when setting up a family media agreement.

"How are we doing as a family with our use of media?"

This can lead the conversation in any number of interesting directions. It gives kids the opportunity to tell their parents, "Well, we see you using media all the time," whether it's texting, emailing or reading on a device. It can sometimes be alarming and illuminating for parents when their children hold up a mirror to their own behavior. It can also be quite humbling. Often, parents can fall into the trap of following the mantra, "Do as I say, not as I do." It's important for parents to be accountable.

"What should our rules be for use of media during the school week?"

This question gives families the chance to talk about the importance of focusing on schoolwork and even when homework is completed. Parents might also suggest that there are a variety of ways to spend the extra time, whether it's reading a book, playing a board game, or engaging in a building or design activity. Or, depending on the family, the response might be that it's okay to use media after all homework is complete.

"Are weekends and holidays different?"

For some families, the weekends and holidays give kids the opportunity to consume a lot of media and get it out of their system so that when they go back to school, they are ready to unplug and focus on school. For other families, this type of free-for-all on weekends and holidays can be crippling and present challenges for re-entry into the regular routine of the school week. It is up to each family and parent to figure out what is best, based on the needs and personalities involved.

"What happens when something goes wrong, such as breaking a family agreement or doing something inappropriate with media?"

It is critical to script these types of scenarios so kids understand that there might be consequences for transgressions. The last thing families want to do is shut down the conversation when something goes wrong.

"How can we have fun together with media?"

This question can give a family the opportunity to think of ways to engage positively with media, whether it's to make a movie together, play an online game like Words with Friends or Scrabble, or have a family competition with Temple Run.

"What happens when you go to a home with a different set of rules?"

This is one of the trickiest spots for parents to handle, and is the age-old issue of surrendering control of what kids might be exposed to. One option is to call the friend's parents ahead of time to let them know where the family comfort level is. Another option is to say that each family has their own set of rules and guidelines, and that when you go to a different home, you need to abide by that family's rules, even if those rules do not coincide with your own family's rules.

No matter what the end result of the agreement is, the most important thing is having the conversation as a family.

What tips can you suggest for having a family conversation about media use?

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Bon Crowder
Math Mom & Education Advocate

We were just considering this in our house this weekend. My sister, who is not very media or computer savvy, has decided to turn off the television during the week for her son. She's seeing remarkable results in their home.

My daughter is only three years old, but she's quite proficient on the iPhone. And she uses her monkey-like climbing skills to get to the DVDs and knows how to work the DVD player.

But the more screen time she has, or we have, the less time we have together.

Thank you for the questions to consider. Will be integrating them into our conversation on our family's media agreement!

Elizabeth's picture
Elizabeth
I teach at the junior level in a grade five classroom

I really enjoyed reading your article! The concept of having a family media agreement gives children the opportunity to communicate with their parents and allows the family to develop healthy boundaries concerning media involvement.
One tip I would offer would be to extend that agreement to the teachers of children that have family agreements. I realize that some parents may not be comfortable with this arrangement; nonetheless, it would help teachers have a greater understanding of what some of their students are learning at home. It may also help teachers extend their student's learning by providing a forum of activities at school that could be used as an extension of what these children are being taught by their parents.
Giving children a voice concerning using positive messages when discussing the concept of media can motivate children to see media as a learning initiative. Texting, emailing and playing a game on an IPAD can be viewed as educational tools if parents take the time to talk about ways in which these devices can be integrated in their children's day to day learning opportunities. It also gives the children the ability to have a voice and share their interests and or concerns about the media device they are using and what they like or dislike about it. Children spend too much time learning how to navigate through the media on their own which is not always to their advantage. Being able to discuss media in a familial setting gives children the courage to ask questions to their parents and be more involved with the outcomes associated in this learning process.

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