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I am new to this forum,so please be patient with me.My son who is 15 now has struggled his whole life with behaviour problems.I knew it as he was a toddler that he was going to be an individualist not a conformist and i thought that was going to be a good thing and i still think that way.He was diagnosed with ADHD/DYSLEXIA a little over a year ago and i've done alot of research on the disorder,we even send him away to a program to help deal with his behaviour problems,the program taught him alot of therapy tools to use in different situations. The techniques helped as long as he was in the program his classes had maximum 12 students.His program has been over since August 2008 and he has gone back to public school his first term was great we had no problems because as he said he was a ghost,but towards the end of first term something happened at the school which had nothing to do with him but in his mind he was being accused of it because he was told to stay home for two days;the school claimed he wasn't suspended or anything like that it was just so they could finish their investigation.After that incident his second term was a disaster he stopped doing homework he started going back to his old ways of thinking and when asked why his attitude was they made me stay home for two days with no reason now I am going to give them reason,I have met with the school on numerous occasions about whats been going on with him and how he felt about what happened in term 1 and they still have not taken their accountability for how badly the situation was handled.Second term is now over and we have started third term. I met with his teachers and I gave them each a plan of action for school,also 12 things about ADHD that students want their teachers to know some of his teachers were very accepting to this and other ones just didn't seem to care.Some of his teachers are very disappointed in the way the administration handles him,if he gets into a conflict and he tries to explain what happened he gets suspended while the administration then listens to what the other students have to say.
Unfortunately any disciplne will go on the child's record. You as a parent have the right to exam you child's records at any time and if you disagree you can ask for a expungment. I have had a lot of problems with the teachers at my son's middle school. He has been accused of something and he did not do it and got in trouble for talking back to the principal, he was trying to explain himself and he got charged with disruptive behavior. -they found out that he did not do it--and has not apologized at all. A little girl pushed him in the back when she was playing with another boy by accident and then got in my son's face and bumped him as to say -what-, my son pushed her off him and the teacher wrote a referral for aggressive behavior because she saw him, my son was charged recently when a kid took a rubberband and popped him in the back of the head and he chased the kid, the kid fell and they said that my son was on top of him asking him why he did it. My son got suspended with a 10 day suspension and a five day suspension each time and guess what the other students did not get suspended -we know this because we called some of the other classmates. I do not trust the prinicpal at this school, i will be filing a lawsuit against the school as well as a grievance against the prinicpal. I am not the only parent that feels the school is bias towards certain students. Another thing-the boy that popped my son was the kid that did the other offense that my son was accused of. He is not a angel, but he deserves justice and equal treatment. He is in the 6th grade and plays the violin with good grades, have not been in trouble like this before he came to this school. Please be well aware where you place your child. Enough said If there is any one that is a attorney or a parent who has faced this problem please email me I need as much help as possible. I never got to defend my son because they refused to let me see the statements from the witnesses and the stories changed so much my head spinned. I contacted the legal department for the school and they said that the prinicipal did not have to give me the statements because she was the one that did the investigation. Then how can i defend my son. I went on the word of the prinicipal before and my son tried to explain himself- but spend 10 days out of school. This will be on his school record, please if someone is a attorney or a parent who has been faced with this type of situation please email me , I need as much help as possible .. There is also a agency that is called Advocates for Children's rights-that will listen if you have a issue. However, they only have a small number of attorneys. Aibs40@yahoo.com Thank you -God Bless
I just happend to be looking at this website for the first time and came across your plea for assistance. Although my daughter didn't have ADHD, she did have a learning disability. It was a trying time for her and for me while she was in school.
I can only share with you a website that I believe could assist you. It is the CDC website that has some good resource information for parents and teachers, The webiste is: http://www.help4adhd.org/
Another website that may be of interest to you is: www.addiss.co.uk.
You should be able to obtain services for your child based on the IDEA legislation and the latest 2004 IDEA legislation.
Although ADHD is not considered a learning disability, perhaps this website can assist you to obtain the right kind of services for your child. It is:http://www.ldonline.org/multimedia
Good luck to you. Also keep the faith. I struggled along with other parents along with my child to get the services my child needed in the public school system. Riding this out by staying on the public school staff and (even if your child is in a private school, you still seek services from the public school where you live) is a full time job. But again keep the faith. My daugther who had dsylexia went through college, majored in accounting and now is an auditor for a private company.
The best to your child and you.
I am a single parent with a son who was diagnosed with ADHD, ODD oppositional defiant disorder, & EMD emotional mood disorder since the age of 6. The first school he attented didn't understand him. They kept sending him home for everything, & lets not forget suspension in the kindergarten. Okay I put him in another school because he fail, but the new school he is in now the kindergarten teacher knew how to handle him. At the end of that year my son receive certificates & pass to the first grade. Here we go again the first - first grade teacher was qualifed to handle students with this disorder. So she had a room full of students with ADD, & ADHD some on medication & some were not. My son was place into another first grade teacher's room she didn't uderstand him & of course he was being suspened again from school. My son can function doing his work, he has his moments, but I feel the teacher should have more patient with students with special needs. I believe in punishments, but I am frustrated because I don't know what else to do. My son is now 8 years old & still in the first grade because of his behavior. Because he is missing so many days from school. I am in IN School Suspension teacher @ another school & I see the same problems. I care & try my very best to help each students who is sent to my room, I just wish someone would care enough to help my son. Please help, thank-you for your time & service.
I am so frustrated with the discipline given in school! I can't believe that as a parent there is absolutely nothing I can do except move him to a different school where it is probably the same. I have a son in 6th grade and one in 8th. My son in 8th grade is diagnosed with ADD and does have an IEP. Some teachers work really well with him and some have absolutely no patience. With both of them though, I am at my wits end with the silly things they get detention for. It's all up to the judgement of the teacher, no discussion. If one child bumps into another but the teacher views it as intentional,- detention- no discussion. If a child drops his pencil and gets up to get it, - detention - no discussion. If they make a noise that the teacher deems as sarcastion or laughing - detention. After so many detentions they do get a suspension. My kids are not perfect, they do get silly sometimes, and they do sometimes absolutely deserve the detention. But they come home with so many detenions for such silly things it's getting very hard to bite my tounge and support the teacher. It's not just my kids though. When I talk with other parents in the school district the frustration seems to be the same. Many of us just roll our eyes. When I look back to when my kids were starting kindergarten and I put that first backpack on them and told them how exciting and fun it is to go to school I could almost cry. It's not what I imagined for them at all.
As anonymous stated,too much emphasis has been put on "silly things" in school. A kid now gets wrote up for putting a chain in his mouth, for saying "this homework stinks, for talking on line in the classroom, for a high five in the hallway, for nodding, for not having their agenda signed by parents, for getting up to give a pencil to another student. Also,adhd students are not understood in school, for small misgivings, they are out of school suspension. This suspension causes their grades to drop, and the school officials do not care. we have attened school intervention meetings, where mentoring was promised, never happened.
Can you forward information on positive reinforcement prorams that are in place in your school building? I agree with what you have stated and would like more information.
This is my first administrative job as Dean of Students. I am creating an ISS program. Please forward information on your school's program. I really need some help in creating an effective program.
I am also looking for good programming or information on alternatives to oss. Can you please share what you've found with me.
I am sorry that you and your classmates had OSS because of a fight. I hope you can find people out there who care about you and will help you learn ways to deal with conflict. You have a lot of thoughts running through your head and I can tell that you are frustrated.
I am an ISS teacher and what we're trying to do is work with students in ISS to talk about things that happened, and to give kids resources for managing their anger and working toward teaching students that there are alternatives to fighting. Sometimes it works, and other times it doesn't but I will keep on trying because all students--even the ones who have gotten into trouble--all students are worth it!
Hang in there gurrl because you ARE worth it!!