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Schools support resposible teenagers, schools provide birth control.
I strongly believe that birth control and condoms should be available to early adolescents. It is a parent's job to educate their children and all but there is a point where teenagers have to make their own decisions. Parents dread the idea of having sexually active teenagers but with the social pressures nowadays the best advice for parents is to advice their children what is moral; That random sex does not fulfill missing emotions, to avoid peer pressure and to be extremely smart and safe about the choices being made today because they harm tomorrow's desicions. My parents did an excellent job in educating me about who I was and what i was going to do with myself. Sex has to be disscused and believe me that kids will make the best desicions if there is communication in the home. As for outside the home, kids do try to find themselves, sometimes it does bring about problems and its not about rebelling. When I made the choice to have sex with that person I love [I know it may sound like its simply sexual urges than a spiritual connection coming from a 16 year old but I waited a long time before I made this choice], I was aware of the options that were out there for me. However, it is so hard to walk into a clinic and ask for birth control guidance. I would have felt more comfortable going to my school's nurse than to some crowded clinic. I feel really proud that my parents guided me through the right path, even though they are not aware I take the pill nor that I am sexually active but that was my choice. Most importantly, I take the pill and use the condom for them; I do not want to disappoint them or suffer any pain by having an STD, becoming pregnant or by having an abortion. I am aware of the hormones I induce and I believe it is 10x much better than to have unprotected sex. the pill being offered in middle school only spreads awareness and responsibility not sex. Parents will always play an important part in their kid's life to an extend. Just because my parents do not know of the hormones I am taking and even that I am engaging in sex at en early age does not make it seem that I am a bad apple. Believe me, sexually active teens are more common than believed. I am going to receive valedictorian this year and I am a proud candidate of the Bill Gates Millennium Scholarship. Teenagers can make the right choices if permitted.
Schools should not give out contraceptives. The morality of this issue is huge but the legality is also important. Why is it that a school can not give out Tylenol without parent knowledge but may be able to give out contraceptives?
It is my right and responsibility to teach my 4 daughters(ages 11-21) how to morally, healthily and sensibly handle their sexuality. I do, in many ways, stand in parentally for students in need but handing out contraceptives to students without parental consent is not a responsibility that my school or I should have.
This is more complex than just saying... "Sex is wrong" or "Birth control will fix it." Obviously we see it as a problem or else we would not be responding so passionately. We care about our kids and want what is best for them (and on a larger scale, what is best for the future of our nation). Simply discounting birth control and saying it sends the wrong message doesn't solve the problem, but neither does just passing out birth control. While birth control may alleviate a portion of the problem with unwanted pregnancies, we're still faced with the bigger problem of why our children feel the need for sex at younger ages. And while we can feel better about our image as adults because our youth don't show the obvious results of teen sex, they are still empty and thinking that sex will fill it. They will carry this with them later in their marriages which will very likely fail, more children living in broken homes, more children trying to fill the empty places. The cycle most likely won't end because we can't agree on whether or not to take a stand for our children. To take a stand, we must give them something greater than sex... true love, positive affection, and guidance that is not always popular. This remedy has four letters... TIME. You may think that it's too simple OR that we can't expect everyone to do this. But YOU can. Start with the first kid you see tomorrow. Make a difference.
You honestly believe that kids who have a sudden urge to have sex, they are gonna wait to have sex until marriage? With the way things are going and how kids are growing up these days, you're living in the past. Its very hard to find virgin girls before their married. Sry, but its time you looked right now instead of in the past.
I do not think that schools are a place where contraceptives or other medication should be distrubuted without parental consent. As an educator, I see too many parents' rights slowly being taken away from us and into the hands of the government. If my child can not receive Tylenol for a headache without my permission, then why in the world should schools be allowed to give out something that could be harmful to the health of my child without my permission? It just doesn't make sense.
Doesn't anyone see the long term effects of these preteen girls taking the pill? What will happen to them when they reach their 20's or whatever age they decide to have children, and they can't conceive because they have taken the pill for so many years?
Sadly, unplanned pregnancies have happened since the beginning of time. The difference now, is that along with unplanned prenancy comes the STD's and other deadful diseases of our society from having so many different sexual partners. Teach and practice abstinance. Old fashinioned, yes? But, look where our society is going...I'd rather teach our children (and adults) to refrain and see the next generation grow up in healthy relationships.
One must also consider the side effects of birth control pills! My college aged daughter was put on the pill to control an ovarian cyst and rapidly developed a chemically induced depression, a scenario she has seen played out in the lives of friends and acquaintances over and over as doctors use the pill for everything from acne control to birth control. In fact, it has now become the subject of her research.
Given the documented serious side effects of birth control pills, do you really think a 12 or 13 year old has the maturity and insight to make an informed decision? How is a caring community of parents and friends supposed to help a chemically depressed teen when only the school nurse knows?
I find the position that a school can hand out birth control pills without parental consent remarkably irresponsible.
KIDS ARE NOT STUPID! You think that simply refusing to allow kids protection is somehow going to magically keep them from having sex? If anything, it will have the opposite effect. They will simply want to rebel more. And since they are unable to protect themselves thanks to parents who don't want to face the facts and who can't realize that they don't have total control over their kids lives, there will be more unwanted children brought into this world.
No matter what adults say to kids, there is still going to be a large percent who don't listen. When you say you don't want clinics giving out the sort of things that will prevent more unwanted children being born into the world, you do realize that if the children are not provided with these things, they will simply go unprotected. I hate to say it, but kids are going to have sex no matter what. It is a sad reality, but one we must face and we must have a way for the kids to be responsible. Just the fact that these kids are trying to protect themselves is good. And the more adults limit kids rights, the more they will rebel.
How many of you people are actually a parent to a middle schooler? Do you even remember what it was like being in middle school? Kids these days have grown up in a world that has almost done a 180 degree turn. Would you rather have your kid at the age of 11 to 13 being criticized by other parents because she is pregnant at such a young age, or because she is taking birth control? I know that I would rather have my daughter on birth control and know that she is safe from getting pregnant than being the laughing stock of the entire school. Parents think that they have control over their children. When the reality is that they don't. The only time parents have control over their children is when they are at home. When their children go out with their friends, they don't know what they are doing, they cant control their every move. People who are against this issue are just horrified at the fact that children are having sex at a young age, but they can't stop it. Kids are going to do what they want, no matter what they are told. There has to be some people who are writing on this wall that are opposed from abortion. There will be an increase in abortion rates if children are having unprotected sex and not using birth control. Would you rather be literally killing lives that will soon be living, or preventing pregnancies from even happening? You think about that. Some of you say that it is a parent's responsibility to help their children. How can parents help their children if their children don't tell their parents. Kids these days would rather tell a school nurse what happens in their sex life than their parents. Haha, one partner in a lifetime, that's funny.