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Get over yourself, Gen-X. Stop whining, stop hovering, and stop making excuses. Take responsibility for your child's actions and leave the rest to the professionals. Your kid will look up to you more if you let him/her look up to a teacher. Who really cares if you were "damaged" by the 80s? It's the 21st century...time to move on. The form (and country) moves better as a whole, not as a piece.
It feels a bit like I'm supposed to add therapist to the ever-growing, too long list of things I'm miraculously able to do in a day. The first step to recovery for such parents is admiting they have a problem, not having me spend hours trying to find something for them to do. Every year at my "high acheiving", high SES school I have experienced what I feel borders on abuse from people who insist they have all the answers. The example they set for their children is tragic. They should homeschool, not waste my precious planning time.
I find the author of the article, Susan Thomas, to be naive in her observation that her school administrators kept her daughter in her classroom, because they "listened" to each other. In my world, that is politically correct speech for admin giving in to their demands, once again. Unfortunately, for so many of these parents, the rephrasing does nothing but reinforce their single minded focus on their child, their needs, and their perceptions.
What is a bigger pain is that sometimes administration caters to them beyond belief in order to prevent that awkward confrontation. What makes matters worse is when you have a Gen-X principal who feels that late work is acceptable all the way up until the day that grades have to be submitted.
What's happened is that social promotion, or passing my child if I cry loud enough, has been encouraged. Makes me wonder what this set of students-as-parents will manifest themselves as.
While I agree that in the beginning these parents can be a royal pain, with patience and firmness you can win them over. You need to make sure that whatever you are doing is in their child's best interest
In my school, my experience has been that many parents are "pushy" and think that the responsibility for their child falls solely on the teacher and not the parent.
I am tire of hearing about "extra credit" when their sons and daughters don't do anything most of the year, and at report card time, decide to ask for special dispensation so that their children can pass.
I find this to be an outrage for the teachers' and a big pain in the ass for administration and faculty alike.