Parents as Partners: An Effective Method in Social and Emotional Learning

When parents, schools, and communities combine forces, great things happen.

When parents, schools, and communities combine forces, great things happen.
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Strong parent-school partnerships are critical to students' social and emotional well-being.

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When Laurie Russell, a crisis counselor at Palm Springs Middle School in Hialeah, Florida, sat down to design a middle school course in social and emotional learning, she knew it wasn't enough to simply provide the students themselves with strategies for dealing with the difficult and complex issues they face every day.

"The kids also needed to be supported at home," says Russell, who, in her twenty-year career has worked with students and families facing everything from divorce to substance abuse to mental and physical health crises.

That's why she added an unusual requirement for students interested in the year-long course: parent participation. Before students are accepted into the popular class, their parents must attend three workshops (during which they receive strategies to help them cope with the various stressors in their lives) and to support their students' efforts to use specific stress-reduction and conflict-resolution strategies at home.

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A Benjamin Franklin Middle School student and parent watch a student-produced television broadcast.

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An Essential Collaboration

Russell's effort to involve parents is just one example of the many ways in which schools are recognizing the critical parental role in the social and emotional learning of children.

In Ridgewood, New Jersey, for example, Tony Bencivenga, principal of Benjamin Franklin Middle School, provides parents with a wide variety of opportunities to participate in the school's efforts to support social and emotional learning. A Parent Center on campus reflects the importance placed on having parents as partners in doing what is best for each child, and they are welcome any time. Parents are also encouraged to meet with teachers throughout the year to discuss issues related to their child's academic and social-emotional development.

In addition to these ongoing parent involvement efforts, Bencivenga has convened a group of parent advisers in the area of social-emotional learning, with whom he meets throughout the year "to talk about the role of parents, the role of home, and the role of school in promotion of social-emotional learning."

These efforts and those like them at other K-12 schools are critical to fostering emotionally intelligent youth, says Maurice Elias, Rutgers University psychology professor and author of several books on emotional intelligence. He adds that schools should go one step further, in fact, and develop strong relationships with all members of their surrounding community. "We have to be willing to work together," he adds, "if we are going to address the challenges that kids face in a very sophisticated society."

Strategies for Encouraging Parent and Community Involvement

Begin the discussion. If your school does not have any programs around social and emotional learning, work with others in your school and larger community to create what Linda Lantieri, national director of the Resolving Conflict Creatively Program, calls a "web of support." Bring together leaders from throughout your community -- businesspeople and law enforcement, parents and educators -- to discuss ways in which your community can make the emotional health and wellness of children a priority.

Include parents and community members in program design and planning. A useful resource in this area is Building Community Consensus for Character Education. The booklet, which includes guidelines for developing broad-based community support for character education in schools, is available from the Character Education Partnership.

Organize guest speakers. Work with parent organizations and community groups to identify local experts who can speak to parents and teachers about strategies for nurturing emotionally intelligent children.

Roberta Furger is a contributing writer for Edutopia.

This article originally published on 5/1/2001

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Lynda (not verified)

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Children receive language development through parents, teachers, and the community. It is crucial that we enstill in the children the important social and emotional knowledge that is needed.
In my professional opinion I feel that it takes a community to help raise a child. The child is exposed to the community and gets language and knowledge from the community. Everyone who has contact with a child is responsible for touching that child's life.
It is important that children are taught that they have emotions. They should be able to express their emotions. It is important that the teachers, parents, and community become aware of the child who is the future and show them that angry is not handled through violence. Let them know that anger is an emotion, but instruct them at an early age about how to handle the anger.
If a parent/teacher exercises yelling when she is upset the student may get the impression that yelling is appropriate when you are upset. Instruction from everyone working together for the same goal of student achievement will always in my opinion be best for the child.

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