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Kids who do not care...

Laura Frankfurt 4th and 6th Grade Special Education Teacher from New Jersey

How do you deal with students who just do not care. I have students that really do not care if you are speaking to them, looking at them, or yelling at them. How do you reach these kids besides talking to them about their interests and making a personal connection, because that already did not work. These students TRULY just do not care about you, about school, about work, even about getting rewards. Help!

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Teacher in Oxnard, California

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I've done this as well, with mixed results. Some students are very responsive in the meeting, but make no changes in the classroom. Different students require different solutions some of which I have not hit upon yet.

It's worth the effort

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Jacki was right on. It takes persistence and creative finesse to reach kids. Imagine if you have failed repeatedly and continue to go to school. These kids have to protect themselves and you have to gain their trust. Keep the faith and know they are listening. Not talking too much and listening helps a lot.

Special Education Teacher/Supervisor

Building a trusting

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Building a trusting relationship with students who don't appear to care is the key to success with them. Unfortunately it often takes a substantial amount of time to gain their trust and to show them that you truly do care about their success. I once spent over a year and a half building a positive relationship with a student who had been kicked out of every other school placement he had been in. He had also been removed from his biological family. Needless to say, society had "proven" to him over the course of several years that he was a throw away kid. It takes time and loads of patience and caring to break through something like this. Best of luck to you!

Special Education teacher from Texas

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Jacki was right on. It takes persistence and creative finesse to reach kids. Imagine if you have failed repeatedly and continue to go to school. These kids have to protect themselves and you have to gain their trust. Keep the faith and know they are listening. Not talking too much and listening helps a lot.

Deborah was so right! I had one of these kids just this past year. Very difficult to deal with in addition to all your other students! I was lucky in the fact that this student also had a super general education teacher and a firm, but loving principal. We worked as a team. I told him, "I care about you. I will forget and forgive you every day as long as it takes for you to be successful here at our school." And that is what I had to do...every day I pretended like his horrible behavior from the day before was nonexistent (other than holding him accountable). It takes a load of patience! Don't give up...they are worth it!

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Relationship, relationship, relationship!

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As so many posts before me have said, it's all in the relationship! We've run an arts mentoring program for almost two decades, based on a mentoring educational approach my husband developed - and it's been amazing to me to watch that 180 degree turn, student after student, because they've gotten what they needed. Sometimes I think it's like a body that's deficient in vitamin B, that gets the right food and becomes healthy!

Bill wrote a wonderful mentoring and teaching guide about his "out of the box" approach - Venturing Together: Empowering Students to Succeed, which is available at our site (www.merge-education.com) or Amazon. I've seen a lot of teachers dig in to this approach and find success ... perhaps you could too. Good luck - you have one of the most challenging but potentially satisfying jobs ever!

Producer LD Podcast, Digital Media Consultant, Author

The Motivation breakthrough

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I would also recommend reading Rick LaVoie's- The Motivation breakthrough- a great book that talks about why kids seem to be unmotivated and how to reach them. Often they don't want to try anything because they are essentially success deprived, ad it's easier to be "difficult" than to try and fail and feel like a disappointment or feel personal humiliation.

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