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Ready to be Let Go vs. Still Holding Their Hand
Posted on 11/18/2009 9:45amAs we all know, teaching middle school is about straddling the elementary and high school worlds. It's our job to prepare them for their future as an independent high schooler, but many aren't ready to be independent. After all, some are still playing Operation, while some have moved on to playing Doctor. Some are still brought their lunch everyday, while others are cooking their own dinner as latch-key kids. How do we help them all academically and developmentally? That is the middle school teacher challenge.
How do we "spot" these tween academic gymnasts without hand-holding?
How do we prepare them for independence when parents may still be coddling?
How do we support them when parents are ready to let go prematurely?
Please share your tricks, tips, stories, and thoughts!
Honest IS the best policy
I find that being honest with students really makes a difference. You have to care about them; but you have to HONESTLY care. You have to listen to them and their concerns; but you have to listen HONESTLY. You have to challenge them to work hard and reach their potential; but you have to HONESTLY believe that they can do it. You have to build a relationship with them; but it has to be an HONEST relationship.
Their going to love you one minute and hate you the next. Want you to be their mother and want to be left alone. Hold their hand and give them their independence. Show them you care but not necessarily in front of anyone. If you can be genuine, honest, truly listen, and care it will take you pretty far.