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I think the ABC model applies

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I think the ABC model applies perfectly to Douglass' Autobiography, especially the passage usually referred to as "Mr. Covey." I have also read quite a bit about shame resilience in the work of Brene Brown, author of Daring Greatly.

My twin sister and I, raised

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My twin sister and I, raised by the same parents, are almost opposites when it comes to resilience. My sister was labeled smart as a young child and I was labeled a hard worker. I think these labels shape a child's personality and how a child "B" believes in themselves. If a child is labeled as smart and does not do well, they tend to give up. But children who attribute their success to hard work will work harder when they are having difficulty.

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Becky is spot-on. Many people

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Becky is spot-on. Many people need things to be nice, neat, and easy, because we live in a FAST, EASY, and FUN obsessed society.

This does not translate into a society dominated by resilient people, but rather people who feel or become overly dependent, helpless, or needy, without first having worked enough for themselves. We say we prefer independent thinking, but how about independent behavior, where asking for help is an act of last resort after having exhausted your own resources, as long as you are able bodied or able minded?

People can be be far more resilient if they are forced to, but we exist in a society that doesn't demand it. Just witness the number of able bodied or able minded people who vote for politicians promising entitlements that demand little in the way of personal responsibility or resolve.

I disagree with Becky who

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I disagree with Becky who says it's a neat solution for educators - because even in disaster situations the resilient ones tend to survive against all odds.

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Power is an element often

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Power is an element often removed from the conversation about resilience. People tend to be more resilient when there is some control over the adversity such as with the students who received poor grades. You are not likely to see the same thing (nor is it a realistic expectation) inadversity over which someone is powerless such as natural disasters or the impotence of a young child whose parent died of cancer. Educators like things nice, neat and easy. Life is messy.

Thanks for posting, Renee!

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Thanks for posting, Renee!

Resilience Educator

Excellent article

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Resilience can certainly be taught. Every challenge that we face is an opportunity to build resilience because our response to any challenge is based on the same thing, our understanding of four Ss: self, situation, supports, and strategies. This presents an easy model for teaching resilient thoughts. Unfortunately, our natural response to challenge is counter-productive to building resilience because our emotions take over. Luckily, we can stop that natural reaction and instead use challenge as opportunity to teach resilience--if we know how. See www.URresilient.com.

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