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I raised two strong willed

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I raised two strong willed highly opinionated sons with not much headache at all--even through their teens years. As my oldest son was leaving for Berkeley, he told me "Mom, I really like it that you never hovered. You always honored my space." It never seemed logical to helicopter around my sons. How would they ever grow into strong happy men if I did that? But what I did make sure to do is sprinkle little wisdoms around often into conversations...my own personal hard earned logic. Now I hear from their GFs "Your son is so insightful, I can't believe it!" The seeds were planted. There are many ways to help kids get a clue (we at IABPM do it through song lyrics attached to lesson plans) and stay out of their way so they can stumble, get up, stumble, get up etc and grow strong. Like everything else in life, there's a balance a mom and teacher need to fine tune daily. Rather magical, if you ask me :-) Love what you wrote. btw as a musician, appreciate the Carnegie Hall reference.

mom and author of children's books that help build character

The idea that we need to

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The idea that we need to protect children’s self-esteem has caused a pendulum swing to the point that we don’t help our children build self-respect. Making mistakes and feeling bad about them is how we build a conscience- the voice that reminds us the temptation isn’t worth the consequence. I’m really happy to see more and more parenting articles talking about giving children the freedom to try, fail, and learn from it. As parents, we need to help our children be more honest with themselves about their actions, and hold them responsible. I just wrote a blog about helping kids learn from their mistakes, and not letting them deflect, wallow, or otherwise avoid facing the truth of their actions. Check it out at: http://talkingtreebooks.com/blog/?p=114

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