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WHAT WORKS IN EDUCATION The George Lucas Educational Foundation

When I first started teaching and was overwhelmed by the demands and complexity of the job, my survival strategy was simply to take all the advice that came my way and implement it. So when my wise mentor suggested that after the first day of school I call all of my second grader's parents, I did so.

In spite of my exhaustion, I called each family and introduced myself. I asked a few questions about their child. I said that their kid had had a good first day. I said I looked forward to working together.

Throughout that year, and the years that followed, I continued this practice -- I had an intuitive feeling that it was key: The positive phone call home. After the first days, as soon as I'd identified the kids who might be challenging, I made it a goal to call home with positive news every week. I'd share this goal with my students, greeting them at the door with something like: "I'm so excited to see you this morning, Oscar! I am going to be watching you really closely today to find some good news to share with your mom this evening. I can't wait to call her and tell her what a good day you had!"

When I taught middle school, this strategy made the difference between an unmanageable group of kids and an easy group. You'd be surprised, perhaps, how desperately an eighth grade boy wants his mom (or dad or grandma or pastor) to get a positive call home. On the first day of school I'd give students a survey that included this question, "Who would you like me to call when I have good news to share about how you're doing in my class? You're welcome to list up to five people. And please let them know I might call -- even tonight or tomorrow!"

First I'd call parents of the kids who I knew would be challenging, those I suspected rarely got positive calls. When an adult answered the phone, I'd say, all in one long breath, "Hi Mrs. ____? I'm calling from ____ middle school with great news about your son, ____. Can I share this news?" If I didn't immediately blurt out the "great news" pieces, sometimes they'd hang up on me or I'd hear a long anxious silence.

Some of these kids were difficult, extremely difficult. However, I was always able to find something sincerely positive about what he or she had done. As the days followed, I kept calling -- "I just wanted to share that today when ____ came into my class he said 'good morning' to me and opened his notebook right away. I knew we'd have a good day!" Sometimes I'd stop in the middle of class and in front of all the students I'd call a parent. The kids loved that. They started begging for me to call their parent too. It was the first choice of reward for good behavior -- "just call my mama and tell her I did good today."

What shocked and saddened me were the parents who would say, "I don't think anyone has ever called me from school with anything positive about my child." I occasionally heard soft sobbing during these calls.

I'd first used this phone call thing as a strategy for managing behavior and building partnerships and it worked. However, after ten years of teaching I became a parent and my feelings shifted into some other universe. As a parent, I now can't think of anything more I want a teacher to do -- just recognize what my boy is doing well, when he's trying, when he's learning, when his behavior is shifting, and share those observations with me.

I know how many hours teachers work. And I also know that a phone call can take three minutes. If every teacher allocated 15 minutes a day to calling parents with good news, the impact could be tremendous. In the long list of priorities for teachers, communicating good news is usually not at the top. But try it -- just for a week -- try calling a few kid's parents (and maybe not just the challenging ones -- they all need and deserve these calls) and see what happens. The ripple effects for the kid, the class, and the teacher might be transformational.

Check out this fun sharable video about positive phone calls home.

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Tara Lira's picture

There's an app I came across recently called Remind 101. Its completely free for teachers, students and parents to use. The application review features make sure it protects both teachers and students through no personal phone number sharing. As a previous counselor whom worked with parents closely during difficult academic periods for students, this would have been invaluable and a positive aspect of many parents and caregiver days when faced with such challenges.

Great idea and can't wait to use it when I'm in the classroom. Thank you for sharing everyone.

Ben's mom's picture

thank you for posting this. I would love to get a phone call like that. As a parent of a "challenging" child, my heart sinks every time I see the school's phone number on the caller id. I would love, just once, for the call to not be about something my son did wrong. He is a great kid, but I know how difficult he is to work with in the classroom. Last year at conferences, his teacher led with "He's a great kid." It made my day. It was 5th grade, and the first time a teacher ever said that to me. When I realized that, it broke my heart. Teachers, please try to see the good behind the difficult. As parents, we know when we have a difficult child, we live with them every day. Please let us know that you see some of the wonderful qualities that co-exist with the challenging ones. I worry every day that my son's enthusiasm, creativity, generosity, compassion and wit are missed by the poor attention, impulsivity, and disorganization that get in the way of his schoolwork. It doesn't have to be a call, a quick email or note written in the planner. Anything to let us know that you see the good.

VFoster's picture

I began calling parents a few years ago. The benefits far out weigh the time it takes. The previous posts make me realize how important it is to have positive things to say about children. Nancy and Ben's mom, I am glad that your children had at least one positive role model. I am sorry it was not more.

MelissaM's picture

Hi everyone,
Since I began teaching about 8 years ago, I knew making positive phone calls home should be something I make time for. For me, it has been easier to write a "Good News Note" or email. After reading this post, I have decided making positive phone calls is something I want to add to my practice. Even if I commit to making 3-4 phone calls a week, I think this will be beneficial for my students and parents will appreciate hearing from me on a personal level.
Thanks so much for the information! I am excited to share good news about my students!

mfitz's picture

Hello,
I am so glad that this fantastic practice is being shared. It can make all the difference in starting off on the right foot with students and parents. I was lucky enough to have a mentor who recommended this practice to me years ago and I have been doing it ever since. It is an excellent way to introduce yourself to parents and start off on a positive note. If you don't have time to call everyone's parents right away, I recommend calling the students' parents who you think \might be a problem first. That way you have the benefit of having told them positive things about their student first, before having to discuss potential problems later. Parents are more likely to listen and cooperate if they know that you already like their child and see the good in them.

sh61052's picture

Growing up, I only ever know of teachers who would call home when a student misbehaved. And as every parent knows, when the school's phone number appears, the moment of panic or worry sets in. "Now what have they done? Are they in trouble? Hurt? Sick?" After reading this post, I think that more parents would be more receptive of school phone calls and to helping their student if teachers called home more often with the good news and not just the bad. Great article and great points!

DHiggins's picture

Elena,

Sharing positive news about students, especially the most challenging ones, is a great opportunity to open the lines of communication between parents and teachers. I believe this is most beneficial for those parents who may not have had a positive school experience themselves or whose only calls from the school or teacher are negative. I can only speculate that those challenging student's perception of school changes too when they are recognized for a positive action. While they only take a few minutes of time each day, the benefits are well worth the time investment. I will be implementing these phone calls into my classroom.

lrogers's picture

I loved this blog! I feel the exact same way. I feel as though being positive and sharing your students strengths and happy moments with parents can truly bring change to the community. Positive phone calls bring you that much closer to your student and parents, and can therefore make learning much more powerful. I too have had positive phone calls and conversations with parents only to hear them cry out of past defeat. As teachers, we are students' second parents. We are with them all day, guiding them, nurturing them, loving them and teaching them. Why shouldn't we share news with parents? I see my students do amazing acts all the time, I'm sure a working parent who is exhausted and missing their child would love to hear of their accomplishments. It's another extended way of working together for the benefit of the community's future.

Lauren Ashley's picture

I never thought of doing a positive phone call home. It makes complete sense! Why shouldn't those students who are just awesome all the time receive a nice phone call home from the teacher to express the gratification of being so wonderful day after day! I am going to do this when I have my own classroom because it probably will make such the difference in the classroom especially when other students who are not receiving the calls hear that others are! Strong motivation!

Kathryn Roe's picture
Kathryn Roe
Professor of Education

It is, of course, a good idea to call the parents of well-behaved children. However, it is not nearly as powerful as making positive phone calls to the parents of children who are more of a challenge. There are three reasons for this. First, setting a goal to make positive phone calls about that child who can try a teacher's patience forces the teacher to look for the good in that child. (It is there. Really.) If all we notice about a child is the negative, that's all we see, and children will live down to our beliefs about them. Second, it helps parents be less alienated from the school system. For many parents, the only time the school calls is when their child has done something negative. If parents realize the teacher can see good things about their child, they are much more likely to listen and work with the teacher when a problem arises. Third, making positive phone calls, looking for the good in kids, and sharing good news with parents gives us a more positive view of the world. We are happier people and that is communicated to the students, our colleagues, and parents. So when you have your own classroom, I urge you to plan positive phone calls for all students, not just the ones who are well-behaved. Making such calls will change the child, the parent, and the teacher.

Nancy D's picture

This article hit me so hard that I felt compelled to reply. My son, who is now a senior in high school, is a bright, funny, caring and giving young man who has struggled every single day in education. He maintains a 3.2 GPA and for him that is like a 4.0 and he has never had behavior issues. We have invested thousands of dollars in tutoring and education programs we felt would keep him at pace with his peers. He tries hard, but often times his grades do not show the effort. The last time he was recognized for doing something well was in the 3rd grade, so for 9 years not one teacher has contacted us to let us know any positive feedback we could give him.

We were in an IB elementary, middle and high school where the characteristics -- risk taking, inquirers, knowledgeable, communicators, principled, caring, balanced, reflective -- are paramount in the success of the child. we were heart broken that throughout grades 4-12 that not one teacher could select our child as a student of the month in ANY of these characteristics. Especially when we watch over and over again the same students being recognized for these categories. Even with the praise he got from home -- it was not the same.

We watched over the years his confidence level just dip, and dip and dip. It did not matter what we would tell him he has never felt good enough for our education system. It truly is a sad state of affairs.

I am confident if but ONE teacher had taken this approach my son's confidence would have been bolstered. It was evidenced when a coach of his took him under his wing and my son soared in that sport -- not because he necessarily knew how to play the sport, but because the coach had confidence in his ability to succeed. This coach passed away during my son's junior year, but every time he goes out on that mat, my son remembers the guidance, support and belief that coach gave him and as a result he felt he could do great things.

I can imagine those phone calls your parents receive are pure blessings. So much more for those who are also behavior challenges. Oftentimes parents only here the bad, and I for one believe there is good in all!

Thank you for sharing your positive approach to making the students and their families feel like they matter.

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Brian's picture

I believe in the saying, "you can't tear down until you first learn how to build up." Edification and encouragement does go a long way. This does not mean we do not correct or inform parents when children are disruptive, but we do need to balance negative calls home with positive reinforcement.

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MaryK's picture
MaryK
Parent of 2 in Arlington, VA; former HS teacher; education consultant

I loved this post, both as a former teacher and now as a parent. I'd suggest one addition, though-- what about the "positive phone call to school?" I have been sending emails or notes to my son's teachers with positive comments about things he's shared with me, interests he's developed at school, and contributions that his teachers are making to a positive school culture (for instance, the art teachers who work so hard to hang so much beautiful artwork in the school hallways). Teachers now seek me out when I walk into the building in the morning to thank me for recognizing their efforts.

It feels good for everybody, and it reminds me of my own experience as a first-year teacher, getting a really thoughtful note from a parent, and bursting into tears because I had felt so isolated in the classroom and finally *someone* was letting me know I had done well.

It goes both ways!

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Jennifer Gonzalez's picture
Jennifer Gonzalez
Blogger at Cult of Pedagogy
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This post really rings true for me. It always took a concerted effort for me to make these calls and send those postcards, but it always gave me a burst of good feeling when I did it, and it was one of those things that really increased job satisfaction for me. (And yes, it also had positive effects on student behavior!).

Two things I would add: (1) Specificity matters. Whenever possible, tell the parent something specific the student did. Specific praise always makes a bigger impact on students than general praise, mostly because it helps them know what to keep doing. (2) For teachers who have a huge number of students: Yes, of course it seems nearly impossible to get to all of them. So just get to some of them. Start with the ones for whom it will make the biggest difference. The ones whose behavior is pretty much always teetering on the edge of unacceptable. Then choose a few more who probably feel completely unnoticed, and notice them. Even if you only contact five families all year, it will make a big difference to those five families.

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